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the sense of nurturing and the father gives it the sense of social
relationships. In my view this is only partly correct. Bearing in mind her
ideas on the father - daughter relationship, I assume that for heterosexual
children :
The child gets its sense of social relationships from the
parent of the opposite sex to it.
The child gets its sense of being an individual from the
parent of the same sex to it.
These ideas mean that for a boy his sense of individuality is a masculine
one, whilst for a girl her sense of individuality is a feminine one.
Summary
I summarise my ideas for the period in life when the infant is trying to
create its ego (from about seven months of age onwards). The infant
assumes that the mother s subconscious hatred is the mother s feeling
towards it. It experiences self-hate, which is then turned into guilt. It
escapes from the guilt by developing identification with the mother it
changes self-hate into love, but this love is the love mode of jealousy.
Jealousy follows guilt. Hence the sequence is:
Self-hate leads to guilt, which then leads to
identification, which then leads to jealousy.
The jealousy may or may not be obvious, but the guilt is buried in the
subconscious mind and so is not visible.
The mother had already imprinted her pattern of sexuality on the child.
So now the child ties his jealousy to the mother s sexual feelings ; hence
his image of her always has a sexual component. Through the stratagem
of identification he ties his will to the mother s use of will ; this is his
means of stabilising his own will. Finally, when he has become an
adolescent he experiences sexual transference in social situations when
anxiety acts on his jealousy.
The complete reaction from guilt to sexual transference is the Oedipus
complex, as it relates to the child-mother relationship. The factor of
identification within the complex generates intense feelings. The man
will now find that for sustained passionate and intense sexual
relationships to occur, his female partner needs to have traits of
personality that are similar to those of his mother.
References
The number in brackets at the end of each reference takes you
back to the paragraph that featured it.
[¹]. The differences between my terms sexual desire and sexual
attraction are explained in the article Two Modes on my website
Discover your mind. See Links. [¹]
[²]. Blackham, H. Six Existential Thinkers. Routledge, 1952 and 1986.
A good description of Nietzche's idea of will and how it relates to values,
attitudes, beliefs and character. [2]
[3]. Autism is discussed in the article Depression and Autism, on my
website Patterns of Confusion. See Links. [3]
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Two Ways of Handling Hatred
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Deflecting hatred
Infancy trauma always generates a long-term
response: it deepens the intensity of hatred
Diagramme 1:
within the child. Hate can be used in two
responses
ways: it can be directed at oneself or it can
be directed at other people. These responses
Diagramme 2 :
of hate lead to the emotions of guilt and
terminations
pride respectively. The child desperately
needs to withdraw from hate, especially the
Social identity
self-hate. So it flees into either identification
Diagrammes 3a, b, c
or self-absorption.
Individual identity
I look at both the ways of directing hatred.
First I consider the flight from self-hate, and
Diagrammes 4a, b
then I turn to the deflection of hate away
from oneself to other people.
Summary
References
The Flight from Self-Hate
The child s identification with the parent has, as its initial emotional
dynamic, the self-hate within guilt. It is guilt in self-hate mode that
produces the emotional bonding with the parent. The act of identification
then enables the child to switch from self-hate to love ; now jealousy
becomes the derivative or final dynamic of identification. The sequence
of emotions that generate identification is:
guilt (mode of self-
Self-hate jealousy (mode of love).
hate)
The arrow can be read as leads to and indicates the direction in which
these emotions change, so that self-hate leads to guilt, and guilt leads to
jealousy.
The identification with the parent enables the child to switch from guilt
to jealousy. The child has created a breathing space for itself from the
suffering of trauma. After trauma the child hates itself ; after
identification it jealously loves the parent.
The pattern of identification with a parent lays the foundation for future
episodes of identification with other significant people. Identification
may bring with it excitement and passion, as when the young adult
jealously follows his rock-star idols. But when a psycho-analysis probes
underneath all the veneer it reveals that identification is always a
response to subconscious psychic pain.
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The Deflection of Hate away from Oneself
After trauma the child directs its hatred at the mother, and generates
pride. Pride in the mode of hate is not much of an alternative to guilt,
since this mode of pride is always conducive to thoughts of violence.
Now the child flees into self-absorption. The initial emotional dynamic
of self-absorption is pride in the mode of hatred towards others. The act
of becoming self-absorbed then switches this hate to love, so that
narcissism arises. The sequence of emotions that generate self-absorption
is:
Hate pride (mode of hate) narcissism (mode of love).
Again the child has created a breathing space from the suffering of
trauma. After trauma the child hates the mother ; after self-absorption it
loves itself.
Infancy trauma is a permanent reality for the sensitive infant. In order to
survive, it has to originate long-term responses that can accommodate
itself to this pain. Identification and self-absorption are the only
responses that can do this and so in its ever-changing world the child
swings between them. If these responses fail in later life, under the stress
of social relationships, then the child (now become an adult) may slide
into periods of madness. Therefore infancy trauma has the effect of
producing profound changes in the character of the child, the degree of
change being related to the intensity of the trauma.
I consider that the period within which the infant is vulnerable to trauma
is roughly from seven months to fifteen months of age. This is the time
period for the creation of the ego during this period the infant very
susceptible to trauma. [¹].
I put these ideas into diagrammatic form. The arrows indicate the
direction in which these states of mind change, so that infancy trauma
can lead either to guilt and thence jealousy, or to pride and then to
narcissism. [ Pobierz całość w formacie PDF ]
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the sense of nurturing and the father gives it the sense of social
relationships. In my view this is only partly correct. Bearing in mind her
ideas on the father - daughter relationship, I assume that for heterosexual
children :
The child gets its sense of social relationships from the
parent of the opposite sex to it.
The child gets its sense of being an individual from the
parent of the same sex to it.
These ideas mean that for a boy his sense of individuality is a masculine
one, whilst for a girl her sense of individuality is a feminine one.
Summary
I summarise my ideas for the period in life when the infant is trying to
create its ego (from about seven months of age onwards). The infant
assumes that the mother s subconscious hatred is the mother s feeling
towards it. It experiences self-hate, which is then turned into guilt. It
escapes from the guilt by developing identification with the mother it
changes self-hate into love, but this love is the love mode of jealousy.
Jealousy follows guilt. Hence the sequence is:
Self-hate leads to guilt, which then leads to
identification, which then leads to jealousy.
The jealousy may or may not be obvious, but the guilt is buried in the
subconscious mind and so is not visible.
The mother had already imprinted her pattern of sexuality on the child.
So now the child ties his jealousy to the mother s sexual feelings ; hence
his image of her always has a sexual component. Through the stratagem
of identification he ties his will to the mother s use of will ; this is his
means of stabilising his own will. Finally, when he has become an
adolescent he experiences sexual transference in social situations when
anxiety acts on his jealousy.
The complete reaction from guilt to sexual transference is the Oedipus
complex, as it relates to the child-mother relationship. The factor of
identification within the complex generates intense feelings. The man
will now find that for sustained passionate and intense sexual
relationships to occur, his female partner needs to have traits of
personality that are similar to those of his mother.
References
The number in brackets at the end of each reference takes you
back to the paragraph that featured it.
[¹]. The differences between my terms sexual desire and sexual
attraction are explained in the article Two Modes on my website
Discover your mind. See Links. [¹]
[²]. Blackham, H. Six Existential Thinkers. Routledge, 1952 and 1986.
A good description of Nietzche's idea of will and how it relates to values,
attitudes, beliefs and character. [2]
[3]. Autism is discussed in the article Depression and Autism, on my
website Patterns of Confusion. See Links. [3]
Go to
Home
Top
Copyright © 2002 Ian Heath
All Rights Reserved
The copyright is mine, and the articles are free to use. They can be
reproduced anywhere, so long as the source is acknowledged.
Ian Heath, London UK
e-mail address:
iheath3.tsm@relative-mindmatter.co.uk
New Ideas in
The Subconscious Mind
Psychology
Home List
Two . Identities
The links in the table on the left take you to sub-headings in this
article.
Two Ways of Handling Hatred
Sub-headings
Deflecting hatred
Infancy trauma always generates a long-term
response: it deepens the intensity of hatred
Diagramme 1:
within the child. Hate can be used in two
responses
ways: it can be directed at oneself or it can
be directed at other people. These responses
Diagramme 2 :
of hate lead to the emotions of guilt and
terminations
pride respectively. The child desperately
needs to withdraw from hate, especially the
Social identity
self-hate. So it flees into either identification
Diagrammes 3a, b, c
or self-absorption.
Individual identity
I look at both the ways of directing hatred.
First I consider the flight from self-hate, and
Diagrammes 4a, b
then I turn to the deflection of hate away
from oneself to other people.
Summary
References
The Flight from Self-Hate
The child s identification with the parent has, as its initial emotional
dynamic, the self-hate within guilt. It is guilt in self-hate mode that
produces the emotional bonding with the parent. The act of identification
then enables the child to switch from self-hate to love ; now jealousy
becomes the derivative or final dynamic of identification. The sequence
of emotions that generate identification is:
guilt (mode of self-
Self-hate jealousy (mode of love).
hate)
The arrow can be read as leads to and indicates the direction in which
these emotions change, so that self-hate leads to guilt, and guilt leads to
jealousy.
The identification with the parent enables the child to switch from guilt
to jealousy. The child has created a breathing space for itself from the
suffering of trauma. After trauma the child hates itself ; after
identification it jealously loves the parent.
The pattern of identification with a parent lays the foundation for future
episodes of identification with other significant people. Identification
may bring with it excitement and passion, as when the young adult
jealously follows his rock-star idols. But when a psycho-analysis probes
underneath all the veneer it reveals that identification is always a
response to subconscious psychic pain.
Go to Top
The Deflection of Hate away from Oneself
After trauma the child directs its hatred at the mother, and generates
pride. Pride in the mode of hate is not much of an alternative to guilt,
since this mode of pride is always conducive to thoughts of violence.
Now the child flees into self-absorption. The initial emotional dynamic
of self-absorption is pride in the mode of hatred towards others. The act
of becoming self-absorbed then switches this hate to love, so that
narcissism arises. The sequence of emotions that generate self-absorption
is:
Hate pride (mode of hate) narcissism (mode of love).
Again the child has created a breathing space from the suffering of
trauma. After trauma the child hates the mother ; after self-absorption it
loves itself.
Infancy trauma is a permanent reality for the sensitive infant. In order to
survive, it has to originate long-term responses that can accommodate
itself to this pain. Identification and self-absorption are the only
responses that can do this and so in its ever-changing world the child
swings between them. If these responses fail in later life, under the stress
of social relationships, then the child (now become an adult) may slide
into periods of madness. Therefore infancy trauma has the effect of
producing profound changes in the character of the child, the degree of
change being related to the intensity of the trauma.
I consider that the period within which the infant is vulnerable to trauma
is roughly from seven months to fifteen months of age. This is the time
period for the creation of the ego during this period the infant very
susceptible to trauma. [¹].
I put these ideas into diagrammatic form. The arrows indicate the
direction in which these states of mind change, so that infancy trauma
can lead either to guilt and thence jealousy, or to pride and then to
narcissism. [ Pobierz całość w formacie PDF ]